Dear Post-Abortive Mother,
In the medical field, there is only one word that separates you from me. You had a selective abortion, and I had a spontaneous abortion. That one little word represents much more than just a clinical term though--it represents the direct desires of our heart. While you chose to end the life of your baby, I did not. Your desire was to not be a mother--while the exact opposite was true for me. You rejoiced to know that your baby was no longer growing inside of you--while my heart broke five times over in the loss of my babies. I have to be honest with you--it is difficult for me to even place myself in the same category as you, because our desires were so opposite of each other. But, that is exactly what I'm about to do.
(I understand that not all abortive mothers actually know what they're doing at the time. You may have been confused, deceived by caregivers, abused or even coerced to do something you didn't want to do. This truly breaks my heart.)
There is one thing that connects us--we have infants who have died. Loss of human life. Loss of our own flesh and blood. I have to believe that after the surfacing of the very indicting Planned Parenthood videos in the past few weeks that there are some post-abortive mothers out there who are mourning the loss of their babies now. After seeing the horrific images of infant body parts being parceled out like an old car being used for parts, I imagine that many post-abortive mothers like yourself are wondering if that happened to your baby. I imagine that there is a whole new group of grieving mothers out there--mothers who believed the lie that what was growing inside of them was not human--was not life. But now? Now you know the truth. It has been revealed to you that even those who told you your baby was not human are actively selling those "human" body parts for profit. And that has to hurt.
There could be hundreds of thousands of you (if not millions, considering the number of abortions since Roe v. Wade), who are now mourning the loss of your babies, just as a mother who has miscarried. My heart hurts for you. I can't imagine the pain of seeing those images on YouTube, wondering if that was how your own baby was treated. It is a painfully revealing truth that we have witnessed over these past few weeks, and I'm sure there are more of those videos coming. I have to believe that there are some of you who are now grieving, who are repentant, who are begging for grace for being a willing participant in this horror.
As someone who has grieved the loss of five infants from my own womb, I want to encourage you. I want to give you hope. I want to help you come through the pain. Though our desires of our heart were drastically different, the pain of loss is the same. In fact, your pain must be even greater now that you know the truth of what happened. We have both lost our own children, and that pain is unbearable.
But we can rejoice with hope, because we have a God who can redeem even the darkest of sins that we have hidden in the recesses of our hearts--even an abortion. The Bible tells us in Matthew 5:4, "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." This applies to more than just mourning the loss of our babies, it means to mourn over sin, the ways in which we have offended God. Confess to the Lord your grief, make it known to him how sorry you are for the role that you played in ending the life of your baby. He promises comfort and forgiveness (1 John 1:9), and that is something I know you need right now.
We can also rejoice in hope, because we can know that if we have confessed our sin, surrendered our life to Christ in repentance (turning from our sin) and faith (believing in what Christ has accomplished on the cross), that we can actually see our babies again in heaven. I believe the Bible has given many indications that infants who die in the womb, or outside of the womb will be saved. Infant death=Instant heaven. Please take time to read my article on why I believe this is what the Bible teaches here. Because God is so mighty, so loving, so powerful, he can turn even the darkest of our sins into blessing for us and glory for Himself. You and I both can truly rejoice in knowing that while we are not with our children here on earth, they are with their Creator who loves them and cares for them.
And, finally, we can rejoice in hope because one day, the "dead in Christ shall rise" (1 Thessalonians 4:16). Since the day I first heard of the aborted babies being sold for parts, my heart was broken. Truly broken. Grief over those precious babies being torn apart and sold flooded my soul. But as I began to think upon the promises of God for the future of believers, my grief turned to hope and joy. You see, your baby, that most likely was torn apart in the abortion process, and either discarded as just tissue, or sold for valuable parts, will be whole again. The Lord God, in His goodness, promises that when He returns to earth, those that are dead in Christ will rise and they will be given new, glorified bodies. This truth and promise applies directly to ALL of the babies who've been aborted, torn and sold. No matter where on earth their little body parts may have ended up, God will make them whole again when He returns. This gives TRUE hope. He is truly the Redeemer, the only One who can buy us back from our dark sin and not just cover up old wounds, but make us new-- Make those precious babies NEW and WHOLE again.
Dear sweet Post-Abortive Mom, I love you. Christ loves you. There is hope for you, and you can rest assured that your baby is in His hands.